It's so important for us to be positive
role models for our children, by nurturing and guiding them as they
grow, to build their confidence and self-esteem, to love them and show
them that we love them with our words and actions. There
are so many things we need to tell and show our children, and I chose
these ten as the most important that I want to say to mine.
1. I love you. Make sure to tell your children that you love them often. One day, my 6 year old came up to me and asked me “Do you always love me.” "Of course I do," I said to her. "I’ll never stop loving you.” Even when I do something wrong?” Yes, of course, no matter what you do, I will never stop loving you.” Your love is unconditional and you need to let your children know it. They need to know no matter what they do, you will always love them. Tell them that you love them everyday.
2. I’m proud of you. Let your children know that you are proud of them. When your children do something that they're proud of, no matter how big or small, let them know that you are proud of them. Let them know that you're proud of their accomplishments. As parents, we are responsible for helping build our children’s self-esteem. If we let them know that we’re proud of them, we will nurture their confidence and self-esteem. They look up to us for support and we need to encourage them in every way we can.
3. I’m sorry. Even parents are wrong sometimes. Don’t hesitate to tell your children that you’re sorry and admit that you were wrong. When you do or say something that you shouldn’t have, it’s important to set an example and apologize.
4. It’s okay to cry. Let your children know that’s it’s okay to cry. Crying doesn’t make you weak. Everyone cries sometimes. Even adults cry. Let them know it’s a healthy release of emotion to pain, either physical or emotional. Tell them that they shouldn’t keep their emotions bottled up.
5. It’s okay to make mistakes. When they make a mistake, let them know that it’s okay. Don’t let them think that it’s not okay. That puts too much pressure on them. Everyone makes mistakes. Tell them that they can learn from their mistakes and try not to repeat them. Give some examples of your mistakes and how you learned from them. They can also learn from others’ mistakes and avoid making those same mistakes themselves.
6. Accidents happen. Let them know that accidents happen. Don’t make them feel bad or punish them for something they didn’t do intentionally. Help them understand that they didn’t do it on purpose and why it happened. Explain to them how to prevent it from happening again.
7. Listen to them. Always listen to your children. I feel so sad when I see a child is trying to get their parent’s attention and the parent doesn’t. It only takes a moment to look at your child and listen to what they’re saying. Show them that you care about what they have to say. And you are setting an example. How do you expect your child to listen to you if you don’t listen to them.
8. It’s okay to be scared. Let them know it’s okay to be scared sometimes. Find out what they’re afraid of and help them overcome their fear. There are a lot of things that children haven’t experienced and may have a fear of them. Being scared can help a child be cautious too.
9. Ask their opinions. Let them know that you value their opinions. Ask them what they think about decisions that are being made. This will let you know how they feel about certain decisions and it will also help them make their own decisions. It will also make them feel like they’re an important part of the family.
10. Praise them. Praise your children. Whatever the task, no matter how small, I try to let my children know they did a good job. Our children need our approval and it will hep build their confidence.