Recently, the other moms in my playgroup were discussing being patient with our kids. It’s one of the most challenging but desirable characteristics we want to develop as moms. Here are some tips we talked about that may help you become a more patient mom.
• Don’t sweat the little things.
Yes, it happens. A child dumps a bowl of cereal on his lap 10 minutes
before you have to leave for school. Your child goes out and gets his
dress pants dirty five minutes before company arrives. It can be
frustrating and leave you completely aggravated. But you have to try to
remember that it’s not the end of the world. It’s a temporary glitch
that's easy to fix. So try not to lose your cool and get angry at your
child and say something that you’ll regret later on after things have
calmed down. Try to take a deep breath, ask your child to help clean up
the mess and move on.
• Be accountable. Ask your husband and children to hold you accountable. Let them know that you’re working on becoming more patient. Tell them that if they notice you losing your patience and becoming angry, to let you know so you can become more aware of it before things get out of hand.
• Take time-outs.
We give our children time-outs, but sometimes we need them ourselves.
When life gets a little too stressed, sometimes it’s good to just take a
break. Take a few minutes and go for a walk, have a cup of tea or take a
bath. This will help you unwind and relieve some stress and you can
come back more in control.
• Be kind. We never want to say or do anything that will bring any kind of harm to our children. But sometimes when situations get out of control, we can immediately lose it, and show anger towards our children. But I only want to show love towards my children. If my children do something wrong, I want to use that opportunity to teach them. Becoming angry is nothing but counterproductive. If my children make a mess after a craft project, I want to show them the correct way to clean up, show them that I care about them enough to connect with them by cleaning up with them and staying calm and not making them feel that they did something wrong. We tell our children that we love them no matter what, it’s just as important to show them.
• Play with them. Connect with your kids through play. Having fun and playing with them can really help reduce your stress and helps you stay calm. Get involved with them in their art projects. I used to watch while my children made a mess with their craft projects, but once I became involved creating with them, I had so much fun myself, I forgot the mess, and my stress was relieved immediately.