One minute your child is having fun and the next you’re dealing with a cranky and demanding toddler. Here are some ideas to help with toddler tantrums.
Don’t reward them when they whine. If you give your child what he wants
every time he whines, he’ll see that as a way of getting what he wants.
You are teaching them that whining is how they get what they want. The
longer/the more you let your child whine, the more determined they will
become to get their way. Resist to punish them. Instead, take this
opportunity to learn how to ask for something. Tell them that they won’t
get what they want if they whine. Ask them instead to ask in a nice
regular voice and to say “please” and “thank you.” Help them by
demonstrating how to ask for something.
• Establish a routine. Toddlers need structure so they know what to expect. It helps make them feel secure. They need to know when to get up and have breakfast. It helps them to know that they’ll have nap time after they play or has lunch. It’s not that difficult to schedule their day. I know on any particular day when my toddler has the most energy and wants to play, I know that he develops an appetite after running around the yard and is then ready for a nap. Simply reading your toddler’s cues, you can develop a routine for your toddler that will make things easier for both you and your child.
• Spend time with them. With five children to look after, it’s quite difficult to spend quality time with each of them, but I have established a schedule to make it work. For instance, right before their nap time, I will spend some time with them, reading, singing lullabies and giving them some extra hugs before they go to sleep. Toddlers have a difficult time taking naps sometimes, so spending some time in their room until they fall asleep helps a lot. Your child needs you to spend both quality and quantity time with them every day. Give them affection, give them some special hugs and kisses. Make sure you communicate with them. Ask them questions about their day.
• Spend time with each task. Don’t rush. Yes, you have a full schedule and want to get everything done in short a time as possible, but when you rush to get your child dressed or finish eating a meal, your child will notice this and take it as “I don’t have the time for you.” Try to spare an extra few minutes to complete each task with them. It won’t effect your schedule that much and it will mean so much to your child. Once I started slowing down while I was dressing my children or feeding them, I was enjoying the process a lot more. Take your time as you dress your child. Ask them if they like the colors of the clothing or make it a teaching opportunity and ask them to name the colors. While your child is eating their meal, ask them about what they saw at the playground or about the show they watched the previous night. These may be short one-on-one experience that your toddler will appreciate and you will enjoy also.
• Be consistent in disciplining your child. Set rules and discipline your children when they break them. When your toddlers has a meltdown and starts to scream or throw things, deal with this immediately each and every time. We sometimes tend to overlook a toddler’s behavior as something they will eventually get over, but ignoring this will teach him that he can get away with this and this behavior is acceptable. It’s always best to address this behavior right away and consistently.